The bottom, lives together, is to love or to make love? If, the marriage is for a bilateral status, then – - lives together, whether each other in escape responsibility? Proposed that lives together is the man generally, helps you to move can also be the man. Afterward, formerly “covertly, seized every opportunity” – - the sex life, turned orderly making love. Boyfriend, between friend to own name, also altered to “the wife” from “the girlfriend”. More importantly, must use “the litmus paper” every month to examine gingerly, begs itself not to be pregnant ……Therefore, many women start not to stop push awake the human who the side sleeps soundly – - and I live together, you are to love or to make love? Which man doesn’t have to be possible to choose the latter stupid, but, facing the endless indefinite engagement, the women was still unable relieved. Since, lives together the goal, does not lie in this relative security the double bed, then why we can’t marry?! Some women, simply do not need to pledge. Is the boyfriend, what? So long as does not have the marital fetter, then – - the boyfriend, is only one is being the love game’s good friend with. That lives together bedroom, but is the place which two people play. The luck is not good, will meet “a muscle” man. Such man, mostly “loves supremely really”, sense of responsibility, dedication to work, compassion, perseverance, indispensable, does not do well is makes a debut “the young virgin”. They thought: Lives together, to represent the marital prelude, since you have given yourself I, then I pledged, the entire life looks after you ……The women front the pledge, were scared immediately, the god knows, live together with you, is only wants to let play even more stimulates. Pledge? I. Responsibility? Does not need you to undertake. Then, marriage? Sorry, too remote ……In a sense, lives together, is “is not self-confident” to the marriage one kind of performance. Since, sets firm resolve: Why also wants “to take great pains” “gives the euphemistic name” – - “tries to marry”?! Since, is not self-confident, after that “lives together”, faced with a biggest difficult problem, is bids good-bye. After two people either long or short time wearing, discovered that oneself does not suit opposite party. How does that manage? Has to bid good-bye. But, after returning to the unmarried army, discovered that own choice scope, is narrow and is narrow. Formerly and had the ambiguous relational male colleague, could not want, everybody knew that he and someone the gentleman “lived together” to reach one year long time, even if really has become, later will quarrel the frame to come, was also his words handle. Girlfriend, is not willing introduces own elder brother or the younger brother to oneself, then publishes in a newspaper the marriage seeker, finally discovered – - that big handsome, succeeds in one’s pursuit boss the level character, has “the maiden complex” seriously unexpectedly ……Lived together, to limit the life. Lives together, regarding feminine biggest dropping variance, is from beforehand “the love affair” changed to “the daily necessities”. Love, is not romantic, the life changed has been tedious, every day morning to night went to work, afterward must tow the exhausted body to come back – - to mop the floor, to do laundry, to prepare food prepares food ……Some day will put on make-up, as soon as looks in a mirror, with amazement, on face’s young person, already gradually abates in the past originally immediately. Such mood, occurs much to the boyfriend not greatly self-confident woman body on. They want to look for a more outstanding man at the same time, on the other hand is lingering at present’s boyfriend. Therefore, such woman often worried that the fear and present’s boyfriend depends excessively near, affects good luck which will occur from now on possibly. We suggested: If is holding such mood, then explicitly rejects the boyfriend well. Lives together, will only let two people more walk is nearer, the result which will create, often was the custom has replaced the ambition, compromised for the general interest, winds up things hastily, finally “mutually wounded”. Many women will feel that will live together, often will let the human to love, will be somewhat disappointed. Such situation, often occurs on the quite idealism woman body. They hope to love are too high, actually often cannot obtain satisfies. Actually, in world not permanent invariable romantic, only then constant life. If you harbor this kind of complex point of view, facing choice which lives together with the boyfriend, we suggested: As soon as you might as well try, but the premise is you must complete the enough preparation, after accepts lives together, has light which and triviality the possibility faces. What worries? Worries between the friend “the rumors and slander”? Worries parents’ obstruction? Actually, these are not unnecessary. If you treat each other earnestly, and may start a section “to live together” – - even is seriously “tries to marry” life, as soon as then definitely may try boldly, does not need to consider others’ idea and the opinion. Lives together, to have freedom to come and go free and easy, but takes one kind to the marital runahead consumption, it occupies the edge after all the position, has the marital essence, but is not the marital pattern. Has been short legal and society’s approval, the besieged city edge young people, actually can also live together how long?! Because “lives together” to know that is deeper, loves deeply, thus causes “to live together” to move toward marital the prelude. This is the tradition knew that the best one kind lives together the pattern. Lives together, may provide a platform, lets you stand in here – - sees clearly well opposite party merit, the shortcoming, knows opposite party family, the education, the habits and customs, even “makes love” the posture. Only then like this, when two person of connecting rods enter the marital palace time, only will then not feel that all will come too offensively. Now, nobody may reject love, but regarding the marital manner, actually mostly displays with acts with constraint ambiguous. Many young people, rather adopt the way which lives together in the same place, actually says nothing the marriage to discuss marries, gives the euphemistic name: This may omit troublesome many. Thereupon, on some person of manifesto – - avenue, popular “marital phobophobia”. After having lived together quite long period of time, some people have tasted the benefit. They discovered: The marriage, did not look like initially imagined such fearfully. Moreover, each other is also the sincerity is loving opposite party, then on many law’s contracts, are not again may let love be stabler?! These people have a dream probably had not thought that “lives together” becomes unexpectedly cures itself “the marital phobophobia” a medicinal preparation effective prescription. Lives together, it has created the marriage.